Dating Modern WomenMost modern women have changed from their ancient counterparts. Approximately 10,000 years ago humans started living in communities of mixed families. Men were in control from the top ruler down to the family unit. Women have been always subservient to the men, except in extremely rare cases. Men liked it this way and have resisted and fought hard to not change the system. Along comes the "liberated modern women." The first Women's Rights Convention was at Seneca Falls in 1848. Historically speaking, that was only "yesterday". It was organized by Lucretia Mott and Elizabeth Cady Stanton after they were denied seating at the World Anti-Slavery Convention in England in 1840. Since then all of the major pushes for expanded women's rights have been tied closely to other major rights movements, such as anti-slavery in the 1800's and the Viet Nam anti-war protests in the 1960's and 70's. (Burning their bras was a man's idea!) There have been some gains made by women in the past decades that are showing up today on the dating scene. With women's newly gained freedoms in some countries, coupled with economic gains, many woman need not depend on men for survival. Some modern women have become independent and have changed the rules for finding a mate. Some women are even going it alone or with another woman. Men dealing with these women have to operate in a whole new way! Smart Modern Women Do Not Believe Men's Lies. Men tell women lies because it often gets men what they want. Most men learn early what women want to hear, so men spout off the well-selected phrases at the most appropriate times. Women throughout history probably have always known when men were lying, but to insure continued protection the women acted like they believed the men. However, the independent modern woman does not have to play that game anymore. Below are timeless examples of men's lies to women:
"I'm not very experienced, you'll have to teach me how." "That was really good. The best I ever had." "It doesn't matter that I never reached mine." "I'm OK, I just want you to feel good." "I really like doing that to you." "That was awesome, I never had better." "You're all the man I'll ever need." "I'll never want anyone else." "You're so big!" Modern Women Can Read Men Like Books Here are things the modern woman will watch for in a guy when he is talking to her.
Women have built in computers with thousands of years of data from their ancestors about what men want and how they operate. So in the first four minutes of your talking to her, she will collect enough data to accurately categorize you forever. From here on, she is amusingly watching you do your "act" and "mating dance". This is one of women's most satisfying sports! When you see modern women together in a corner laughing, they are probably comparing stories about the goofy things guys did to try to impress them. (If they look at you and all laugh -- leave immediately!) Is there hope for men today? The main point here is that the dating and mating game involves a lot of manipulation by both partners to get what they want. The modern woman is a new player who has come on the recent scene in our culture. She is educated and uses her "new brain" frontal lobes to think logically and will not be easily fooled by the "ancient male hunter" lies. Fact : Liberated modern women have rejected many of the ancient dating and mating rituals and live by new rules. Modern man should be more direct and clear about his desire for sex and what type of a relationship he wants. Communication and negotiation are tools modern women and men can both use to get what they each want without getting involved in all the ancient indirect and devious games.
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